In the past several months my world and more specifically my worldview have undergone extravagant changes. Recently I have begun to see sexuality as the miraculous endless horizon of possibilities it really is, rather than a series of binary choices or genetic predispositions.
As regards to the marital angst I described in my previous post, I have discovered a solution that restores my husband's libido to the way it was when we were first going out. It is, to say the least, unconventional, at least in comparison to the methods I previously employed; endless discussion and sex dates and the like. I conducted this method as a sort of experiment, and accordingly I have been keeping data. Where, as I previously mentioned, sex could occur as infrequently as one a month previously, with my new solution in place, my husband and I had sex ten times during the month of January. I have since begun keeping more detailed data, including the time of day, anything unusual about the sexual encounter, and how I felt about it.
As my life continues to change it has been extremely gratifying to feel that I have the power to fix the problems that have persisted throughout our relationship. I am happier now than perhaps I have ever been before.
